How to Divorce a Friend

How do you get out of a friendship that reminds you of a bad marriage?

A frienship where the love of a friend seems to suffocate more than nurture.

A friendship in which the “give” seems to be more than what you can (or want to) provide, while the “take” is shoved in your face without you ever asking for it and then used to make you feel bad about the unsatisfied expectations around the “give”.

A friendship from which you try to run away yet it keeps pulling you back in like a mischievous black hole.

A friendship that is good yet is equally bad.

A friendship that you at your core know needs to end–or at the VERY least have a sufficient time-out.

I think it was in one of Osho’s book where I read something that changed my entire perspective on wanting to end a relationship with somebody: making the decision to separate yourself from somebody doesn’t mean you don’t respect them. It simply means you respect yourself, too, and are willing to create an environment for yourself that fits and fuels YOUR needs and goals.

Robert Tew seems to agree: “Sometimes walking away has nothing to do with weakness, and everything to do with strength. We walk away not because we want others to realize out worth and value, but because we finally realize our own.“

I agree with Osho and Tew. I also agree with my gut, which says the same thing they do. Now, I need some help finding the best way to go through with that divorce.

Do you have any ideas?